As a mom with three boys and one girl, alot of my focus is on raising those boys to be men.
In this world of "gamers", I want my boys to use their hands and minds to bring glory to God. I have seen too many men waste their time and God given gifts "shooting and destroying imaginary men". To that end I feel like its my "mission impossible" (only with God my "mission is possible") to blaze a new path.
I have laid down counterfire in this "war of their souls" no internet........NONE!
With all the ad's, pop ups and various other "man traps" I made the decision that there was no way to be on the internet and flee temptation.
No video games! Nothing is gained for God by shooting the enemy, enhialating zombies or "capturing the ring of zonder". It is simply another trap from the enemy to get the focus of our boys and men off their true mission and on a distracted course.
Moms this is serious! How many men do you know that are gentle, kind, compassionate, considerate, strong in the Lord, selfless, leaders? They have stepped away from their purpose and are selfish, proud, rough, inconsiderate, followers, and unconcerned with knowing God.
We can change this, with God working through us! We as moms are the first line of defense. Let's change the world, one little boy at a time.
Think about the common temptations for men and let's start teaching them to flee them now, while they are young. Let's come up with a game plan to protect their eyes, hearts and minds, to train them to seek God's strength now, and to teach them to be hardworkers, self-less, kind and compassionate.
Here is my "war" strategy. Every mother's strategy will be different, you need to know your boys and adapt a strategy that works for them. The goal is the same for every mom, equip, train, instruct, protect and guide.
My oldest son is very visual oriented. He is motivated by what he sees, so I have to guard his eyes. He closes his eyes if we walk past a lingerie poster or sign. I don't take him near the bra and panty sections in stores. I make sure any magazines or catalogs that have women inappropriately dressed are thrown out immediately. I want him to learn to respect a woman's body, even if she doesn't. My oldest is also very attracted to entertainment. He is always asking to watch a movie. I limit when he can watch and also what he can watch, after reading time, outdoor time, chores, school, and lego time. I want him learning to be constructive with his time and he is a romantic at heart so I have to make sure he doesn't watch anything showing an ungodly relationship.Anything showing an ungodly relationship will teach him that that is what a relationship is suppose to be.
While there is alot that I protect "from", I try to encourage the "gifts" God has given him. He loves to work with his hands, I give him crafts and projects! He wants to be a hero, so I teach him about "everyday" heros and I help him learn to be a hero in the little things. Like mowing the lawn for his grandpa, making and taking a note to an elderly neighbor to show respect and love. To treat his sister with respect and help her be a lady.
My middle son loves affection, he is going to have temptation with regards to his self- control. He needs to control his emotions and not just react to everything he feels. I teah him to keep his hands busy with building things, taking care of his younger brother and working alongside his grandpa. He sets no limitations for himself, so I have to give him consistant and strong boundaries, so he learns to order himself and be content within those boundaries before they can grow.
He is also very prone to laziness, he always says he can't! I have to make sure he never gives up, and that he starts with little things to build his confidence, never giving him "idle" time.
My youngest is a "spit fire". He knows his mind and no one is going to change it! He has to be corrected immediately and consistantly so he doesn't develop a selfish attitude and a proud character. He also wants everything for himself, he doesn't care about his siblings. I have to teach him compassion and how to have a servant's heart. By constantly helping others, giving of his time and things, he learns that "stuff" is simply stuff and the importance of