Ok, moms here's the deal. How many of you have felt judged by another mom at some point? How many of you have been the one judging?
How many times have you avoided an event or get together because of what you are afraid someone might think of you or your kids? How many of you wish you were more like "her"? Your kids like "her" kids?
I've been on both sides, I often avoid things, people or events because I am sure I will be judged. I mean my kids looked great for about 5 seconds! But by the time I arrive it looks like they haven't been bathed in a month and what on earth is that sticky stuff!
I see those moms whose kids are polished, refined, quiet, not mine! I've stared at those perfectly put together moms and many times thought, "Wow I would go everywhere if I looked that good all the time!".
Here's the thing though, whether we are judging or being judged, we are looking on the outside and determining whats on the inside. Only God knows what is going on in the heart. Maybe that woman is a mess on the inside, maybe she is pretending, maybe she looks good on the outside but is crying out for companionship and love on the inside. The point is, stop judging and start trying to see the heart like God does!
Just think if we all stopped judging one another and started loving, accepting and supporting, we would all be less stressed. If we banded together as moms and supported each other regardless of what things looked like on the outside.
Think about this, a movement of moms not trying to outdo each other or look better than the other. Not trying to be someone we are not and not stressing about how we or our kids would appear to others.
Let's humble ourselves, be vulnerable to each other, open up about our struggles and faults. Give and get prayer and encouragement, instead of judgement!
Think about the moms you know, think about how life would be if you wern't afraid to just be you! For your kids to show up being them and not be worried or stressed about whether or not they and you would be accepted and loved.
The next time you are with a mom, open up to her, be you! Share your struggles and listen to hers, help her, strengthen her, encourage her and watch her open up to you and find someone walking the same path as you!
We can make things better, we can stop comparing ourselves to "her" and be the women God created us to be. We can raise our kids without trying to make them like "her" kids! Let go of the fear and be "real"! Let's stop focusing on ourselves and be free to see the need in others.
How would things change if each of us moms, supported and encouraged the moms in our lives. Who in turn would help the moms in their lives, moms around the world would have an amazing support system, plus our kids would see us being "us", they wouldn't see us pretending, they wouldn't see the "fakeness" we portray. The wouldn't grow up trying to be someone they weren't created to be!
In a world of "photoshop" and posting everything on facebook and instagram, do you post the real you, your real life? Or do "photoshop" yourself and your life?
Let's be real and stop the comparison, the judging, the "photoshopping"! Who knows maybe the mom you are sitting next to needs to hear the very words God has given you to say. Be You! You, are the person God has placed in her life!